Free yourself from conditioning
Free yourself from conditioning
How do social conditionings negatively influence your life? What are the rules of emotional independence? How can online therapy help you regain your decision-making power by eliminating beliefs learned in childhood?
Social conditioning can block your true life. How many times have we kept seeing a friend—or even stayed in a relationship with a partner—just because they were liked by our parents? Maybe because they came from a “good family,” had a respectable job, or looked impeccable. Often, we end up being conditioned in our choices, investing our time—sometimes wasting it—with people who are far from us and not aligned with our true way of feeling and experiencing life.
That’s why it is crucial to make conscious choices based on our inner voice and intuition. A partner with a good job and big ambitions may please our family—but do they truly please us? Are they really on our same wavelength? Many times, we remain in relationships where the other makes us feel alone, distant from our values. And yet, to please others, we silence our inner voice at our own expense.
The same can happen with that friend who seemed brilliant and respectable but later revealed themselves as mean, manipulative, or calculating. The truth is: only we can choose for our lives, and we should never delegate this enormous power to someone else.
Childhood and the system of beliefs
During childhood, we absorb a series of beliefs—often limiting—coming from different institutions: family, religion, school, media, society. We learn what is “right” or “wrong” according to others’ rules. What is respectable, doable, acceptable, or instead shameful and painful. These beliefs consolidate and create our value system—even when those values don’t match our real way of living and feeling.
So, when as adults we want to take a different, more authentic path, we start doubting ourselves, feeling fear or confusion—because we are still prisoners of beliefs assimilated in childhood.
The main rules of emotional independence
It is possible to limit external influences by applying, step by step, some basic rules of emotional independence:
- Stop seeking approval. The constant need for approval is one of the main obstacles to emotional independence. Compliments and praise are pleasant, but our worth shouldn’t depend on others’ judgment. If our opinion doesn’t depend on others, we are free.
- Learn to say no. Saying no is essential to safeguard our well-being and not put others’ interests before our own. Someone who truly cares about us will respect our choices.
- Don’t get trapped by appearances. In a society where appearances often prevail, we must be careful about what we let into our lives (media, trends, social pressure). Choosing quality relationships, nurturing our mind, and aligning with our values is far more important than chasing external approval.
- Be careful with trust. Trust is precious. Don’t rush into giving it to new people—and remain aware that even old acquaintances may change over time, along with their goals and intentions.
How online therapy can help
With therapy, you can reclaim your decision-making power, strengthen your self-esteem, and rebuild confidence in yourself. Social conditioning can be particularly insidious, especially when beliefs developed in childhood are deeply rooted, leading us to believe there are no alternatives to what we were taught.
But making free, honest, individual choices is key to living a true, serene life aligned with your authentic self.
For information, contact Dr. Jessica Zecchini.
Email: consulenza@jessicazecchini.it — WhatsApp: +39 370 32 17 351.
