The real reason why you feel lonely
The real reason why you feel lonely
Why does life give the gift of solitude to some people? What special talents are they endowed with? What can online therapy do?
It has probably happened to you too to feel lonely, or to wonder about the reason for this solitude, present or past, in one or more phases of your life. When this happens, one will almost certainly tend to cut off relationships with people or old friends, old acquaintances, old places or circles; even the way of relating to close people such as one’s partner or family, relatives, no longer seems the same and leaves us with a great emptiness. At times, one might believe that something inside has changed drastically for the worse, and one seeks solitude and withdrawal from these contexts because somehow this way of acting makes us feel better. We might then think we no longer love these people, or even feel annoyed by their presence, by their conversations, preferring not to have contact with anyone or to get home as soon as possible to finally be alone.
If this situation feels fairly familiar to you, it is important to emphasize that it is a very important phase of our life and that there is nothing wrong with us, despite the constant experience of conflicting and disoriented emotions, of feeling continuously out of place. The phase we are referring to is a period of transition of spiritual growth and maturity and, inevitably, silence (the healthy, spiritual silence that does good and makes us evolve) appears as a precious and fundamental companion for this new awareness.
In solitude, courage emerges, the ability to dig, to go deep into one’s spirit for a face-to-face confrontation, to rediscover what one really needs to grow, to find inner serenity, to feel well. In this dynamic of “inner journey,” the closer we get to our deepest and most authentic being, the more the negative and toxic traits of our ego such as anger, envy, dissatisfaction diminish, giving way to higher feelings such as compassion, love, friendship.
This phase of solitude, this feeling of discomfort and being out of place, can therefore bring great changes if one lives it with the desire to truly know oneself, to listen, to dig, and to really understand what our “soul” is trying to tell us. It is at the core of one’s being, away from the noise of everyday routine, that one rediscovers oneself; and once we meet our center, we will certainly rediscover ourselves as different people, more loving, more aware, who can return to the world with new wisdom.
The great minds of the planet teach us the creative gift of solitude
In our society, in fact, many of the beliefs we learn as children are not the result of direct control but of a filter applied to our mind based on the environment and social contexts in which we grew up (family, friends, circles, media, etc.). Through mature isolation one has the chance to re-elaborate with a clear mind a new way of thinking, more rational, more in line with our real essence. One can then understand whether the teachings learned so far from others, the ways of seeing and experiencing life, are truly for us or if we need to seek a new truth, more intimate, more personal. For the first time, one asks questions, one listens to oneself.
If you are feeling lonely, if you think no one can understand you or no place seems right for you at the moment, don’t despair. You actually have a great opportunity: to create infinite possibilities for a life that is as authentic as possible to your true self. You can really manage to look deeply into your problems, your feelings, your beliefs, to face them, change them if necessary, resolve them, and evolve them. The path will certainly not be simple or linear but made up of great moments of discouragement, falls, suffering, emptiness, and instability, which will nevertheless bring you ever closer to yourself and your personal form of happiness.
This solitude was also experienced by the greatest minds of the planet: from Steve Jobs, Giacomo Leopardi, Van Gogh, to Mozart, who loved to compose in his solitude, manifesting his soul and spirit in matter. Very likely this phase of change will bring with it a new awareness, new environments, new people, new energies, new ways of facing or perceiving the world. It is your journey of growth, and isolation asks you to recover your true spiritual energy in order to be happy and vibrate at a higher frequency in the world. A phase of solitude (when sought) can therefore elevate your mental and spiritual faculties. It is an opportunity to be welcomed and embraced to be free.
What can online therapy do?
Online therapy can help you understand which relationships to cut, which environments to change, which aspects of your life to make more peaceful, creative, and more suited to your new questions, your new spiritual needs, your personal evolutionary path; as well as learning to bring out the best from this phase of solitude to listen to yourself, to learn to be well alone by finding new ways of seeing life, new ideas, new truths and awareness, to come out of this transitional phase as a better, more evolved, serene person aligned with your path.
For information, contact Dr. Jessica Zecchini
Email: consulenza@jessicazecchini.it, WhatsApp: 370 32 17 351
