{"id":3444,"date":"2023-09-28T12:49:51","date_gmt":"2023-09-28T10:49:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.jessicazecchini.it\/senza-categoria\/gestire-laggressivita-degli-altri\/"},"modified":"2025-10-03T16:43:13","modified_gmt":"2025-10-03T14:43:13","slug":"managing-other-peoples-aggression","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jessicazecchini.it\/en\/articles\/managing-other-peoples-aggression\/","title":{"rendered":"Managing other people\u2019s aggression"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em><b>How do aggressive people behave? What are the practical tips for managing other people\u2019s aggression? What can online therapy do?<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\">In everyday life we often find ourselves dealing with arrogant and aggressive people, sometimes intimidating or controlling, irascible. Whether in the private sphere or in the workplace, it is not uncommon to have to deal with this type of personality, sometimes even concealed behind manners that are, all in all, apparently calm.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\">It is necessary, however, in order to be able to maintain a healthy balance, to also practice intelligent communication with these individuals, so that the roles of <span class=\"s2\"><b>aggressiveness \u2013 submission<\/b><\/span> turn into <span class=\"s2\"><b>cooperation \u2013 respect<\/b><\/span>. Let\u2019s look together at the practical tips for managing others\u2019 aggression in various contexts in social, emotional, work, and family settings.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p4\"><b>Practical tips for managing other people\u2019s aggression<\/b><b><\/b><\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s2\"><b>count to ten<\/b><\/span>: the old motto of counting to ten is an evergreen; keeping calm is essential when we find ourselves in front of people who instead aim to make us lose control, to bring it into a position of weakness. Moreover, the less we remain reactive to provocations, the more objective and clear-headed we will be to face the problem.<\/li>\n<li class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s2\"><b>be open to more possibilities<\/b><\/span>: if you feel stuck in the face of difficult situations, keep yourself open to more possibilities. The objective point of view of an uninvolved person, such as a trusted friend or your psychotherapist, helps to overturn the situation and look at it from other perspectives as well. If the mind remains open, you do not remain blocked.<\/li>\n<li class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s2\"><b>proactive and understanding<\/b><\/span>: instead of reacting tit for tat, let us try to be proactive ourselves first and to change our attitude toward the aggressive ones. Maybe we try to approach with a reflective outlook: \u201cMy boss is really arrogant and inflexible at this time. Perhaps after all it is not so simple to run a company\u2019\u2019; or \u201cMaria was rude, maybe she just had a bad day and just wanted to go home,\u2019\u2019 etc. Let\u2019s give a new, more understanding point of view.<\/li>\n<li class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s2\"><b>keep well in mind our rights<\/b><\/span>: to be treated with respect is a right, to express one\u2019s feelings is a right, to choose one\u2019s priorities and one\u2019s well-being is a right, to say no without having to feel guilty is a right, to have different opinions is a right.<\/li>\n<li class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s2\"><b>ask questions rather than make statements<\/b><\/span>: with aggressive people the risk is that they want to make you feel inept and incapable. And so a \u201cYou were wrong! Your idea was awful\u2019\u2019 might have as our response: \u201cAre you sure you have considered it fully?\u2019\u2019; or \u201cSo how would you like to solve this problem?\u2019\u2019 Let us always try to bounce the other back with another question and not accept the provocation. If we really don\u2019t feel like arguing, we can also interact with a \u201cAnyway, speaking of\u2026\u2019\u2019 and sharply change the subject.<\/li>\n<li class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s2\"><b>humor<\/b><\/span>: humor is always a winning weapon to show superiority against aggressive behaviors, and to shed light on the issue by breaking in with a joke to lighten the matter.<\/li>\n<li class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s2\"><b>formal tones<\/b><\/span>: try to distance yourself and keep formal tones during conversations with bullies, using \u201cLei\u2019\u2019 (formal \u201cyou\u2019\u2019), or better yet \u201cspeaking impersonally,\u2019\u2019 is a way to create relational distance between us and the interlocutor, compared to a \u201ctu\u2019\u2019 (informal \u201cyou\u2019\u2019). For example: \u201cYour actions are confusing and unsuitable for the project!\u2019\u2019 into \u201cIt is good to act clearly and appropriately in this project.\u2019\u2019<\/li>\n<li class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s2\"><b>make the other reflect on their negativity<\/b><\/span>: sometimes it is also good to set limits and make the other aware of what their negative behaviors are and what will happen if they do not try to improve them. Let us therefore give clear and precise limits and consequences.<\/li>\n<li class=\"p3\"><span class=\"s2\"><b>meditate<\/b><\/span>: finally, dealing with difficult people is perhaps one of the most complex things; in this, meditation helps to center oneself and not be overwhelmed by anger but to observe it. In this regard Buddha said: \u201cIf someone disparages or insults you, train your spirit in this way: remain unperturbed and do not repay him with the same coin. Free yourself from resentment and interpret his hostility as a stimulus to understand him. Be gentle and generous, treat your enemy as a friend. Invest what surrounds you with thoughts of loving-kindness, let your mind be free, without boundaries and devoid of hatred. Try to maintain this attitude.\u2019\u2019<\/li>\n<li class=\"p4\"><b>What can online therapy do?<\/b><b><\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"p3\">Online therapy can help you better manage other people\u2019s aggression by trying to understand what reactions it arouses in us. Often it is not so much how others treat us but how we react to external provocations. Sometimes we react badly to provocation precisely because inside we have a principle of repressed anger, not analyzed, for which online therapy helps to shed light also on negative feelings that had not been taken into consideration before; perhaps in the past we had not been given the opportunity to do so, and instead even a small provocation can bring out all these negative feelings, pushing us to highlight what we need to work on in order to restore peace and harmony in our lives and with ourselves.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\">For more information write to <span class=\"s2\"><b>Dr. Jessica Zecchini<\/b><\/span>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p4\"><span class=\"s3\">Email contact <\/span><b>consulenza@jessicazecchini.it<\/b><span class=\"s3\">, whatsapp contact <\/span><b>370 32 17 351<\/b><span class=\"s3\">.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How do aggressive people behave? What are the practical tips for managing other people\u2019s aggression? What can online therapy do? 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